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In memoriam

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It is with indescribable sadness that I inform my readers of the passing of my love, my muse, Bobbie Morgan, on November 18, 2015. She inspired many of the stories in these pages. I am sure that, even though she is no longer here, she will inspire many more.

Her memorial service is today, November 22, 2015. This is her eulogy.

For Bobbie Marie Morgan

Bobbie and I met 20 years ago. I was one of the organizers of an online support group providing help and advice for parents facing certain challenges. We became online friends in that context, and soon discovered a shared passion for writing. She was a reporter, while I was a writer of fiction.  We often corresponded about writing, sharing our work with each other.

Our friendship grew into one of mutual respect, then of affection.

As often happens, we lost touch after a couple of years. By happy circumstance, we reconnected three years ago. Our warm friendship, rekindled, blossomed into a love that grew over those three years.

I will always remember Bonnie’s grace, her keen intelligence, her good humor. She was fiercely devoted to her two sons—and when she became grandmother to Jackson, she called me. She was positively giddy with happiness and pride. It was her nature to share joy, rather than hoard it.

But most of all, I will remember and be thankful for her generosity of spirit and for the love we shared. She enhanced the life of every person she came into contact with—even those she would never meet in person.

My life has been forever changed in knowing and loving Bobbie. I am very thankful that the the last words we said to each other were “I love you.” We both knew that those words, so often spoken casually, a sort of social formula, were absolutely, literally true for us.

Bobbie worked in the coldly objective world of journalism, but she loved poetry. Many times, when we were so far apart, I would read to her, late at night. Her favorite was this work of Kenneth Rexroth. I think it describes her very well.

Let me celebrate you. I
Have never known anyone
More beautiful than you. I
Walking beside you, watching
You move beside me, watching
That still grace of hand and thigh,
Watching your face change with words
You do not say, watching your
Solemn eyes as they turn to me,
Or turn inward, full of knowing,
Slow or quick, watching your full
Lips part and smile or turn grave,
Watching your narrow waist, your
Proud buttocks in their grace, like
A sailing swan, an animal,
Free, your own, and never
To be subjugated, but
Abandoned, as I am to you,
Overhearing your perfect
Speech of motion, of love and
Trust and security as
You feed or play with your children.
I have never known any
One more beautiful than you.

-Kenneth Rexroth

Resquiat in pace, my love.

13 Comments… add one
William Belle November 23, 2015, 12:32 am

My condolences. I never met Bobbie, we only corresponded over the Internet, but I found her to be a vibrant personality. I enjoyed her work, her web site, and #AdultSexEdMonth. I am so sorry for your loss. All the best to you in your world.

Kayla Lords November 23, 2015, 7:46 pm

I am so, so sorry for your loss – and that of her sons and her sweet grandson. ((HUGS))

She reminded me a few times that the trying times raising my own boys would pass and that grandchildren were an absolute joy. I felt her own joy and happiness come through the screen at me many, many times.

Madam Butterfly November 24, 2015, 5:49 am

I am learning just now. I never met Bobbi but corresponded over the internet all the way from Lagos, Nigeria. She was so bubbly, exciting and made sharing knowledge so easy. I participated in #adultsexedmonth and even took an advert on her website. I am still a bit shocked. Accept our deepest condolences all the way from Lagos, Nigeria.

CALT November 24, 2015, 7:51 am

Parrot, I’m terribly sorry for your loss. Bobbie was an endless source of information for my former day job as well as book research concerning modern relationships. I was stunned to read the news today. I hope she did not suffer, and I’m very glad she had someone who loved her.

Modesty Ablaze November 24, 2015, 10:39 pm

Though we had never met . . . and our exchanges were solely via the net . . . Bobbie’s words always entertained, informed and had a personality all of their own.
She would speak to me from her screen, though I never heard her voice apart from in my head. She would touch me with her wit, inspire me with her energy, make me giggle with her enthusiasm.
My heart goes out to you especially, but to all to whom she was closest, for I’m sure she touched many more than you, or perhaps she herself, could ever have imagined.
We never met . . . but I’m sure we will . . . and what picnics we shall share!!!
Xxx – K

TJ November 26, 2015, 12:34 am

So very sorry to hear of your loss. I thoroughly enjoying following Bobbie’s blog, and thought she must have been a very interesting person to know in real life. I’m sure you will miss her terribly, but you obviously have many happy memories to help you through this sad time. My condolences to you and her family.

Michele Schalin November 26, 2015, 2:01 pm

I am just now learning of this and I am very sad and sorry for your loss Parrot.

Bobby was one of our contributing writers for our site for an entire year. I only spoke with her once over the phone (a delightly fun conversation), but we emailed and intereacted on SN regularly.

I remembered how happy she was when her grandson was born! She also shared stories about her past marriage, and her wonderful sons.

But her two favorite subjects to talk with me about was sex and you Parrot.

She’d love to talk about her relationship with you. Every time you we’re going to meet up she would tell me where it was going to be and how excited she was. She loved you so and cherished every minute with you. She never hesitated to share how fantastic you relationship was. I also have enjoyed a wonderful relationship with my husband for 27 years, so I loved to hear how happy someone else was in their relationship.

The last time we spoke was about 4 months ago and I had moved to Key West. I told her that you two had an open invitation anytime to come visit us.

I want to extend an invitation to you Parrot. If you ever want to relax and visit Key West, we would love to meet with you and show you around.

With love, Michele

admin December 3, 2015, 11:22 pm

Thank you, Michele

Billy Tolle November 26, 2015, 11:51 pm

I never knew either of you but I can identify with the importance of your last words.
My second wife died suddenly at the age of 32 and although I was devastated we were fortunate enough to have a few days to talk before she died and I am satisfied with our parting words.

My present wife’s husband died suddenly when he was 47 and she never had a chance to tell him any last words. I really care that she didn’t have that chance.

The end result is that my wife and I have some things we do that are important:
Neither of us ever leaves the house unless we kiss, tell each other “I Love You” and where we are going,
Every night we say our prayers together, each of us silently, but always holding hands if we are together. Even on the phone when one of us is out of town we both pause and silently pray.
We are both very aware that we are not guaranteed another day, but try to make the most of every day we do get together.
And I know what a difference it will make to the one who is left behind on that day.
Never take those around you for granted, this may be the last chance you ever have tell me have to tell them how you feel.
God bless you and Bobbie and may He make your path ahead as smooth as possible.

admin December 3, 2015, 11:22 pm

Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers.


Madeline December 8, 2015, 6:46 pm

I had only recently gotten to know Bonnie when I took over the Marketing postion here at Arousr. During this short time I had known her, I had many occasion to talk and discuss things with her. Sharing a chuckle or two about something she wrote, it was not difficult to see that she was a great person who will be sadly missed. We will never be the same without you. R.I.P.

Carmelle March 3, 2016, 10:30 am

Enjoyed the read. My condolences and God bless you. RIP Bobbie Morgan

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